It’s more important to be loving than it is to be right. It’s more important to be compassionate than it is to be right. It’s more important to be patient than it is to be right. It’s more important to have hope and faith than it is to be right.
I know these things on some level, but it’s hard to truly believe them. It’s hard to put my ego in check and to let go of the need to be right. It’s hard to let go of control. I want everyone in the world to know about the dangers of fluoroquinolone drugs and I want there to be systematic change to mitigate their danger – because I’m right. And, of course, because poisoning innocent people with pharmaceuticals is wrong. It’s a moral atrocity and it needs to stop.
But screaming at people about how they’re wrong when they assume that the drug companies aren’t poisoning them, that the FDA is protecting them, that their doctors know anything about the dangers of the drugs that they prescribe, doesn’t seem to work as well as I’d like it to. People are resistant to being told what to do, think and believe. They are resistant to being told what is right.
Maybe if we communicate with love as our motivation, as opposed to righteousness, we’ll get further. For all important things that have been fought for, love was the motivation of those who achieved justice. Not validation, not a need to be right – love. Of course, those who fought for change and justice were right, and we all now know that they were right, but they didn’t go about fighting for their cause out of a need to stroke their own ego, they fought because it was important and they succeeded because they fought with love.
It’s definitely inflated to think of this struggle as analogous to fighting for civil rights. We’re not freedom fighters – I realize that. But it is important to fight the drug companies that are poisoning us. It’s important to fight the pain and suffering that they are causing. It’s important that we protect the children of the world from these drug companies who will maim them without batting an eye. And it’s important that we go about the fight in the most effective way possible. The great leaders who won important fights of great magnitude did so with love, not hate. And with love they convinced the world of their righteousness. The world changed because of their fighting, their righteousness, and ultimately, because of their love.
Exactly how we fight with love, and win, is something that I’m not sure of. How do we convince people to not take fluoroquinolones themselves? How do we shift their entire view of the medical system so that they are wary of the dangers of prescription drugs without trying to control them and convince them that we are right? How do we fight without sounding (or being) angry or fearful or bitter? How do we fight with love? I don’t know. But I think that it starts with a mind shift. It starts with letting go of anger, fear, bitterness, control and the need to be right – and letting love, compassion and understanding into our mind, heart and soul (singular – intentionally). It starts with loving people unconditionally, even when they’re wrong, maybe especially when they’re wrong. Because it is only when people are sure that they are loved, that they don’t need to be afraid, that they don’t need to control the situation, that they can let in love and truth, that they can be open to hearing what we have to say and they will be open to change. When people are sure that they are loved, they will be open to stopping the atrocity that is this systematic disregard of human health and human worth in exchange for money, for corporate profits. It’s a system that is broken, that is wrong. It needs to be fixed.
Ironically, I hope that I’m right. I hope that this fight can be won with love. I hope that our society can shift away from valuing money, greed and corporate profits more than compassion, caring, safety, openness and love. It’s a fight worth fighting, and it’s a fight worth winning. Fighting the fight with love on our side is the best way to win it – I hope.